Thursday 11/14/24
I use a limited amount of images in this journal, because it's word-based. Like a book. It is a book. That's how I look at it.
I'll include a couple images here, though, as they're telling. I mentioned what one will see in the first screenshot earlier. Do I mean literally no one can talk at all? Not strictly literally, but it's not far off. People have next to nothing to say and individuality is scarce. Repetition isn't, nor is cycling through the same sets of words and phrases. Most people sound like other people. They often use the same language. The speak about the same limited things and partake of the same limited things. They don't venture far.
There's nothing world-rattling about this statement.
This woman's implication was that men expect women--as men are bad--to do the heavy lifting--because of what men believe is their due and their privilege--but the truth is, most people, especially from a distance, will have nothing to say or run out of what little they could come up with inside of two or three exchanges.
What people do say will take the form of questions. Then you have, at most, two people asking themselves vanilla questions--"Do you have siblings?" for example--that anyone else those people talk to, if those people say anything, are going to ask them.
Besides that not being very interesting and grindingly repetitive, it's not especially productive, is it? You're not really learning anything about someone, and you're not determining if you have any sort of rapport.
Any semi-reasonable person who has been on a dating site like Facebook dating and is not putting their shoulder to the pushing of an agenda can tell you that this is how it works. It's not a man or a woman thing. It's a person thing. Like so much in our world. The problem is people.
Quick side note: I'll see many people of color every day give these examples of the racist treatment they endured that day. Someone didn't hold a door open for them when they were just four feet back. That person--and this is why they're posting--will attribute that to racism. People fixate on what they've determined is their identity, or their salient identity factor. And often what they're citing as an example of racism--and it can be sexism, it can be many things--is something that happened to me that day as well. Why might that be? Because people are rude. They're not thinking about others.
So it's not uncommon for a woman to go on a dating site, have the bad experience that is practically inseparable from this sort of endeavor--that's just how it is, so "success" depends on how long your willing to keep grinding away in a very grim, depressing numbers game-- and blame men. Which is permissible right now. It "plays." It has cultural currency. It's more or less unchecked. It's a thematic and an encouraged social theme.
But it's also not how things are. Yes, many men suck. Many people suck. I'm going to say the breakdown is uniform. The percentage from group to group will be right around the same number.
There's that photo as photo 1, which is followed by photo 2 featuring an exchange with a reasonable fellow. He is thirty-four. Informs the world of his pronouns--I don't think that's a surprise--at the top of his profile. A bit further down, he says that he doesn't believe in Jesus, which is silly, because there was a Jesus just as there was a Napoleon Bonaparte. That part isn't something to believe in or not believe in. I mean, someone wouldn't say they didn't believe in Napoleon Bonaparte. They might not have believed in what he espoused, or what they understood him to espouse, but that would be different.
Anyway, this man went on to say that if Jesus had been real, then Jesus should have used violence in this man's view.
Because the world has always needed more violence, right?
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