Box of cocktails

Monday 4/7/25

A person can say just about anything they want if people don't or won't see the evidence. And that's what people do.

In a world where next to no one knows the truth about anything because very few have the ability to think and it occurs to hardly anyone to try thinking and no one takes their own course of discovery--and instead is reliant on that which is put in front of their face, and, typically, put in front of it again and again and again--almost everything amounts to a lie that no one else has disproven they're too obtuse, too lazy, too wrapped up in themselves, and they're doing the same thing as everyone else.

Then they point because they want to blame the unhappiness that comes from being like this on other factors--the government, dating sites, men. Whatever it may be. When in reality, it's us--what we make up as the lot/group of us, on account of what each of us is individually.

Life is a multi-chambered gift that is wasted on most. Instead of accepting that gift and making good, productive, beneficial use of it, they bust out the rags and matches and light the parts of the offering on fire, turning them into Molotov cocktails and spending their time on earth lobbing bombs while being too dumb to realize what they're doing and not strong enough to take responsibility, stop, and change.

That requires time, accountability, hard, often painful work. And no one is going to lay out for any of that if they don't have to. Especially now, with how we're conditioned, what we expect, and the self-created limitations of all which we cannot do. In other words, how we've made things have to be in order for us to do them or get anything.

What's a person to do? Swim against the stream? The torrent? The tide? Hell, we can't even cross a puddle on our own. We require our asses to be sat in a little boat, with people rowing for us, while telling us we're awesome and living our best life, just to get from one side of that puddle to the other.

It used to be that people could do this--in theory--if they wanted to. Now, it's like they don't have the option even if they wanted to. They're just too empty, enabled, cowardly. They need people lying to them. They can't go anything alone. They need those likes, the enabling, the lies that people say to them. They lack any individuality and purpose. And no one seems concerned about this. And if they caught a glimpse, they don't have the language skills to articulate an idea. They'll probably just say "literally" and gesture--with a couple internet-speak modules--futilely and add to the babble-component of modern day life where everyone is now just a monkey in a corner essentially talking to themselves in those same modules--the verbal memes and gifs--which has become the way everyone talks and can only talk.

And they seriously don't understand why they are alone, why no one really cares, why there is no connection?

How could there be, when almost everyone is this way and this is the way of our society, culture, world?

You reach a point in the going down when there isn't a way back up no matter how much better it'd be and how much people need it, both at the personal and group levels. Then there's just more going down. But with the added aspect here that people will be replaced by machines. The end of us.

Among the things we are least equipped to do: Take accountability, assess necessary changes to be made, make them, grow, think for one's self, think, try, seek.

When virtually no one in a society can do any of those things, what do you have?

Are people happy? Fulfilled? Do you like this?

Is anyone? Does anyone?

Pretty much no and no.

But no one is going to do a damn thing that needs doing for that not to be the case. Whether for the whole, or just for them, which is ironic, given how selfish they are and that they typically care about no one and nothing but themselves. And yet, they're too dense to realize they're their own worst enemy--well, that and the world they have helped make by being this way. A world almost exclusively full of people exactly like they are.

We think that commonality means comfort. Looking to one's left and right and seeing people just like them, no better, no smarter, no less achievable. But in truth, it makes us so unhappy and alone.

For most things of any consequence to be accepted as truth, they need to be repeated by millions and millions of people. They need to be posted about on social media. It's like a peer-review requiring millions of voices saying the same thing the same way. Those numbers are crucial. When someone sees something reinforced--which really means "echoed" here--everywhere, they will take it as a truth.

That doesn't mean they honestly believe it's true or understand why it's true. It becomes, then, like a fact--which is different--in their stockpile of facts. Like in science class. You understood something to be a fact--because--but you didn't understand the workings. Why it was what it was. People need oxygen to breathe. But who can tell you why? Do you know anyone who can walk you through that? And yet, everyone accepts this.

So if you have someone who knows a great and illuminating truth, and they say it, and no one else is smart enough to posit that truth, understand it, express it, and that first person puts it out there--and no one else--nothing will happen. If someone sees or hears that remark, there will be a tacit distancing on that someone's part. Maybe some wise crack.

They will be frightened by the idea because if they side with it and it's false, they'll look stupid, be criticized, lose face, lose followers, and they're too weak and broken to handle that. They're not secure, they're not confident, because in reality, they are nothing.

They have nothing, offer nothing, know nothing. There's no solidity. They are not really anything. They're protecting themselves. They're not smart enough to know on their own. They need reinforcement, which takes the form of a general public or group. The masses.

It's like in school with kids. What do kids often do? They wait to see what others kids think. What the official policy will be for how we regard this other person, this new comeback, whatever. They're not looking at the whatever that is in question--they're looking around them at everyone else for their own marching orders. Everyone thinks something's cool, then it's cool for you to think it's cool, even if you wouldn't have otherwise.

There's ductility involved here--we fit ourselves to the thing. Our stated preferences and beliefs. It's no different with adults now, and actually worse. There is no one in America who is more emblematically a high school student than an adult. An American adult is paradoxically more like a typical high school student than a high school student.

You can take that same truth, and then have it echoed by millions. It becomes a given. Like the thing about breathing and oxygen. You repeat it. It's how it is. Now that it's out there and understood by enough people. The very same thing that would produce incredulity--which in this case is really a self-serving fear and cowardice--in the individual who encountered this truth is now someone they themselves post about and repeat and say frequently. They may even work it into their bio as this thing they're all about.

A difference is that with the millions and millions of voicing comes a lessened version of the truth, because it has to be safer, not as close to 100% true, because people can't deal with that. They need life to be filtered. Often, very diluted, which turns it into something else. Think of those people at Dunkin' Donuts who add this, and that, and more of this, and fifteen bags of this crap, to their coffee as they're standing in front of you. It's not coffee anymore, is it? How do you think life and reality work? And humanness? Same principle.

That's why strength is so important (real strength, not pretend, pandering, "I am so brave, I rode the commuter rail from Fitchburg to Boston to go to a protest, hooray for me, follow me on Instagram" and "I am a hero, I stayed the fuck home" bullshit strength which is indicative of the weakest people). Intelligence really doesn't exist without strength, because you need to be strong in order to be open to, and to discover, and to face, and to reckon with, adapt to, truth. It's like with writing--you're never going to be a great writer without being a strong person (among many other things).